Sitting in train next to me were a young mother and her adorable around 5-year-old-ish daughter.
They looked cute together discussing this and that. But something struck me when i heard the mother said "it's because you're too fat- kamu terlalu gendut sih" as the mother told her daughter to lean on the seat rest while looking at the daughter who is having a hard time to squeeze her (actually not that fat, justbchubby) body into the space between her mother and me.
It made me think a lot about:
1. Why would being fat is blamed as a reason to why someone can't fit into a space. I think it's just normal if one can't always fit into a certain space.
2. Why would as if the mother seemingly blame it to the daughter? Isn't every mother the one contributed to children's food consumption and their children choices might resemble what 's being demonstrated by the parents or the environment.
I think consciously and subconsciously we pick up behaviour from our parents, thus back to this case WHY the blame is burdened to this very young daughter, whom perhaps have made some unhealthy choice of food. But still, they're just minor.
3. Wouldn't it affect the later on child's psychology, mental state and even self esteem? They will feel guilty for having certain type of body type.
I haven't had kids, and would love to have some. This writing is not intended to blame anyone. I hope that this case can be a reflection and note to myself in the future. 😊
I understand that parents must've been busy with their activities and sometimes also too tired to explain a certain concept and sometimes it's practical to just forbid or have a shortcut instruction and reasoning.
So namaste and bless you, parents 😊🙏 parenting is indeed tricky. I need to learn a lot.
#notetoself
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April 13, 2017
